The Real Secret to Happiness

How to get what you want out of life

Happiness is a feeling. An experience of the energy system that is your mind, body and emotions.  Feelings are energetic.

Happiness is a natural state that is blocked because of unwanted experiences. These experiences have created a contracted state which turns off the flow of the natural state. If early life experiences were not loving, you were discouraged. This has a devastating effect on a developing child. Your attention turned to the experience of not being happy.

Your focus then turned to feeling insecure, unlovable, unworthy, discouraged, abandoned, humiliated and rejected to various degrees. Fear also replaced the feeling of being loved.

Priority as a vulnerable child was to survive, then grow, so you learnt to defend yourself. Your subconscious captured these reactions and held them tightly, so you did not have to feel them and to protect you from further pain. You learnt survival patterns that put stress on the bodies systems including the nervous system.

If your upbringing was not full of love, your energy system (your body, mind and emotions) is like a clenched fist unable to open up freely and allow the flow of natural happiness. Just as the clenched fist holds on, you are protecting yourself from further pain and rejection.

The way to reverse these patterns is to feel to heal, to make your subconscious your best friend and engage yourself in choosing to become conscious about your patterns.

An effective way to open up the flow of happiness now is to inspire and uplift others. To make a difference to others opens up the blocked energy schisms that is held in the muscles, subconscious, heart and emotional body. As you make a difference to others, you also make the difference to yourself. You feel the flow of happiness.

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